Forgiveness and Reconciliation

                                                                   Richard Baron

                                                                  April 5, 2008

 

 

Often times attempts to resolve an issue results in the conflict resolution or mediation to reach an impasse or deadlock, wherein the parties cannot move forward due to an irresolvable issue in their discussions.  In these situations, the parties are unable to discuss further issues until the impasse matter has been resolved.  Often, this is the remaining issue of a conflict in which parties are unable to reach agreement.  As time goes by, this can often damage resolutions that have been previously met or even set the overall discussion back.  In order to address such deadlocks or impasses, there exist multiple strategies in order to move the parties forward in pursuit of a resolution to the issue.

In order to break the deadlock often times the parties may turn to a procedural solution to solve the problem.  Procedural solutions are process decisions that parties agree to make in order to resolve disputes without directly deciding on an issue.  Basically, the process results in a way to move forward in the pursuit of an agreed upon solution, but not necessarily provide a solution to the issue at hand.  There are four common types of procedural approaches available to mediators to resolving such impasses (Moore, pp. 317-320):

 

The procedural timeline:  This approach requires negotiators to develop a process and time line for particular agreement points and then agree to certain advantages or if necessary consequences for not meeting the agreed upon timeline.  This approach can be very effective only when the timeline is held seriously by the parties and that either the rewards or penalties are substantial enough to motivate them.  The knowledge that a party may loose important footing on an issue due to a failure to meet a deadline can serve as a powerful incentive in moving forward.    

Researchers have also found that when high-priced mediators were used, the stress related to the costs for such services assisted in motivating the parties to reach an agreement.  When the costs for the actual mediation overcome the focus of the parties interest in such a way that it starts to minimize the issues, such distraction might facilitate the solution since keeping with the procedural timeline would either benefit or penalize the parties financially (Brookmire & Sistrunk, 1980).

 

Third-party decision makers: Should the parties, even after considerable effort, be unable to reach agreement, they might turn the problem over to an impartial third party other than the mediator.  Often times these individuals are a judge or jury, and in these cases the parties are bound legally to the decision.  Another third-party structure is arbitration where a person will hear the party’s positions, review evidence and pass a decision.  Often times the arbitrator’s decision is legally binding and serves as a lesser expensive solution to using a judge or jury.  Although these are goods ways to finalize an issue, the cost can be rather high, especially in cases using a judge or jury in that each party will have to secure legal counsel.  This approach should be avoided whenever possible in order to avoid the cost and often a negative outcome arrives in the winner/looser scenario that removes the chance for an amicable solution for both parties.   

 

Mechanical Decision-Making Procedures:  These solutions are effective when the difference between the parties is not substantial and therefore the loss would not be great by either party.  Also, this approach can be used when each party stands to loose equally if they fail to prevail in the matter or issue.  Basically, in these approaches, the parties split the difference equally when permitting each party to loose and win equally.  Often times this is not a viable solution when there the issue that is not dividable or the terms cannot be equally distributed. 

 

Postponement or avoidance:  Parties may also break a deadlock by postponing or avoiding a decision or leaving the issue altogether.  Postponement is helpful by allowing each party to move away from the bargaining table and revisit the issue individually.  This provides the party more time to either reflect on the issue and their needs, to collect additional evidence, or arrange for testimony to strengthen the party’s position or prioritize the issue.  Many times such a delay in the discussions permits the parties to create new proposals that perhaps were not available previously.  Psychologically, this can be a helpful means to reset the issue emotionally as well.

Postponement may also mean delaying a decision until the other party is more psychologically disposed towards resolving an issue.  Often times, postponement is used in conjunction with a third-party intervention such as a judge or arbitrator whereby the parties prepare their cases to present to this new third party.

 

At times when the balance of power is not equal, including situations where an individual feels that he or she is being abused by a larger system, organization, or government, an Ombudsperson is often used to help facilitate a solution.  Often these are individuals who are appointed by the larger system to provide a resource to cut through red tape in order to find a solution for the parties (Cahn & Abigail, p. 251).

 

Regardless of the method used to get past a gridlock or impasse it is important that communication continues.  When parties stop the interexchange of position and dialog to include the give and take is where all can be lost.  It by seeking a solution in these discussions that a mutually agreeable outcome might exist (Wilmot, Hocker, p. 338).  Whether the conflict is simple or complex it’s the seeking of solutions that moves the issue towards an agreeable outcome that is find a place of mutual interest.

 

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Moore, C.W. (2003).  The Mediation Process, San Francisco, CA: John Wiley & Sons.

 

 

Wilmot, W.W. & Hocker, J.L. (2007).  Interpersonal Conflict, New York, NY: McGraw Hill.